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What is inside
What shaped them, before the rest of us knew them.
The ones who shaped them, and the ones we never got to meet.
The person they chose, the love that stayed, the loss that did not leave.
What they did with their days, and what it cost.
The wisdom from the long way around.
The objects, places, and traditions that carry the story.
The questions worth saving for last. The ones families regret most.
How to actually use them
Do not sit someone down with a list of fifty questions. That is an interview, and it makes people close up. Ask one. Let the answer go where it wants to go. The best material almost never comes from the question you asked.
Record it if you can, even badly, on the phone in your pocket. A shaky recording of someone's actual voice is worth more in twenty years than a tidy paragraph you wrote down afterwards.
And start with the easy ones. Section seven holds the questions families most often regret not asking, but they are not where you begin.